“What do they have that I don’t?”

“What have they figured out that I haven’t?”

“With all the work I’ve been doing, why aren’t I farther along than I am?”

Have those thoughts ever crossed your mind?

When it feels like you’re progressing at a turtle’s speed, it can be easy for thoughts of frustration and doubt to creep in.

Especially when it seems like everywhere you turn, there’s another person with their “overnight” success story. It’s like they waved a magic wand, then everything they touched in their business turned to gold.

So naturally you think, if only you had the magic wand, everything would be a-ok. Then you’d be more efficient, more effective, more confident.

If you had that magic wand, you could finally get over the hurdles that slow your progress.  If only you could get your hands on that darned magic wand, you would totally be on your way to living the good life while building the business of your dreams.

Here’s some good news for you. Said magic wand does exist. And you can absolutely have your own. Here’s how.

The secret weapon behind all the successful people

Ever watch the acceptance speeches of people who just won some award or special accolade?

Most of them are yawn-fests, but there is a unifying theme that’s central to most: A long list of thank-you’s.

The honorees give shout-outs, and heart warming expressions of gratitude to all the people who helped them reach their goal. They thank those who helped them rise to the top.

These rockstars in their field use their short window of opportunity, when all eyes are on them, to give thanks. Because they know they didn’t make it to the top on their own. Almost no one does.

The most successful people have a team of others around them playing various roles to help them be great.

And if you want your business to be great, you need a team too.

Why smart business owners don’t go it alone

It’s not that they’re incapable or inadequate on their own.

Smart entrepreneurs want to give their business the best chance it has to succeed.

And they know they can go farther, faster, with the right people by their side. They know relying solely on their own skills will lead them down a long, winding, rocky road on their journey to success.

In his book Mini-Habits, Stephen Guise described the challenge many people have with relying on their own abilities to reach a goal:

“People have been shown in studies to chronically overestimate their self-control ability….They have big ambitions, but overestimate their ability to make themselves do what it takes to change. It’s a mismatch between desire and ability.”

That mismatch is why so many struggle with their goals, both in business and in life. And it helps to explain why many people often abandon their goals and defer their dreams. No bueno.

When it comes to your business, a great way to close the gap between your desires, and your abilities is to get a team. Find a team of capable people to play the roles you need to help you reach your goals.

Get people to help you behind the scenes. To stand beside you. To whisper needed guidance in your ear. To inspire you to keep going, or tell you when you’re being a royal screw up.

You need a team to help get you from where you are, to where you want to go.

Your business can do great things for you and the people you serve. And in your relentless pursuit to build your business, give it the best chance it has to succeed.

Get yourself a team. And specifically, make sure you get the following four people.

The four people your business needs most

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn

As you build your business, you’ve got to take great care to make sure you get the right people in your corner.

Different people play different roles to propel you to your goals. Make sure to fill your team with these indispensable players.

1. The Light Shiner

“The mediocre teacher tells. The good teacher explains. The superior teacher demonstrates. The great teacher inspires.” – William Arthur Ward

Non-violent resistance. That’s the foundation of the strategy Martin Luther King, Jr., used to secure many civil rights victories in the U.S. His leadership in using non-violent resistance to oppose racial prejudice even earned him the Nobel Peace Prize.

Even though Dr. King’s philosophy has inspired millions, it wasn’t something he thought up on his own. He was greatly inspired by a mentor, Mohandas Gandhi. He had used non-violent resistance to gain independence for British-ruled India years before.

Dr. King wrote of the role Gandhi played in the Montgomery bus boycotts, the year-long movement that catapulted him to the front of the Civil Rights Movement:

“While the Montgomery boycott was going on, India’s Gandhi was the guiding light of our technique of non-violent social change. We spoke of him often.”

When you’re journeying down a new path, a lot of times you can only see as far as your own existing knowledge can take you.

So it’s super helpful to have someone who shines their light far and wide to help you see what’s possible.

Gandhi’s success with non-violent resistance showed Dr. King what was possible. And if it worked in India, why couldn’t it work in Alabama?

As a business owner, you need someone to help you expand your existing frame of reference. You need a light shiner, a wise and trusted counselor. You need a mentor.

Someone to show you what’s possible with your business. Someone to show you the strategies to use to get to your goal. Someone to inspire you to dream bigger.

In many instances, a mentor is someone who has already done, or is currently doing what you wish to do.

Your light shiner leads you by example.

How to bask in the light

Find the right light

You’ve got to have the right mentor to guide you. A guide who’s example won’t lead you astray. A north star who will point you in the right direction for your values, and your purpose.

Look for a mentor who is currently where you want to be, or whose career and trajectory is one you admire.  Observe people in your industry. Or even folks who’ve been successful in a broader field of work that has similarities to yours.

Don’t feel like you have to limit yourself to people who are still living. By the time Dr. King got started in the civil rights movement, Gandhi was already dead. The light from strong legacies are enduring.

Study like mad

Watch what your mentor does and doesn’t do. Pay attention to how her customers respond to her. And then dig in deeper to understand why her customers react the way they do.

Creating a personal relationship with your mentor is ideal. Direct interactions with your guide will enable her to give you pearls of wisdom to steer you down the right path.

But if you can’t connect with your light shiner live, don’t fret. You can study from afar. Read her work, watch videos, interviews, or anything else you can find that gives insights into keys to her success.

Adapt the lessons

Don’t just stand in awe of your light shiner. Take the lessons you’ve learned from her experiences and apply them to make them work for your business.

The idea isn’t to become a carbon copy of your mentor. It’s for you to be a better version of you, by using her experiences and guidance to shape your approach.

2. The GPS

“All coaching is, is taking a player where he can’t take himself.” – Bill McCartney

With twenty-two gold medals, Michael Phelps is the most decorated Olympian of all time. Even with his natural abilities, and ideal physique, a big part of what helped him do so well was his coach.

Bob Bowman, Phelps’ long-time swim coach, didn’t just help Michael prepare physically. He did a lot of work to prepare him mentally to perform well.  No matter what. Bowman talks of the “getting familiar with chaos” tactic he’s used to prepare Phelps and his other swimmers:

“We want to teach swimmers to get the best possible performance in the worst possible conditions. Because that’s what these Olympics are like….So, I do a lot of techniques like stepping on goggles, and the like. I stepped on [Phelps’] goggles so he would practice swimming with his goggles filled up with water when he was little one time. Came back in Beijing, his goggles filled up with water in the 200 fly. And we were glad we did that, cause he just counted his strokes.”

A coach prepares you for the big time. He whips you into shape. He pushes you to go beyond your own abilities, by training you, ridding you of bad habits, and helping you get better at your craft.

Your trainer gets you ready, and in the best possible position to reach your goals.

How to take the smoother path to your final destination

Find the right match

Work with someone who fits your personality. If you respond best to tough love, find someone who gives you that kick in the pants you need.

Or if you need someone who’s more patient and nurturing, make sure you get a coach that provides that.

Bottom line, you need someone who can get you results. Someone who knows your strengths, weaknesses, hang-ups, and anything else that may prevent you from getting where you want to go. And of course, they need to be able to find a way to help you get over any bumps in the road.

Know where you’re going

Once you’ve got the right trainer on your team, be sure to communicate with them what your goals are. With a GPS, you punch in the address, and the system gives you directions on how to get to your destination. If you don’t know where you want to go, the GPS doesn’t know where to take you.

The same goes for your trainer. You tell him the goals you are trying to reach, and he will create a plan to get you there.

Follow instructions

When using a GPS, it gives instructions on when to turn and merge. If you don’t follow the instructions, the GPS then has to “recalculate” to devise an updated plan to get you to your destination.

Once your trainer maps out a plan for you, you have to do the work they assign. And you’ve got to do the work both when you’re working together, and when you’re on your own. Otherwise, you may not see the results you desire.

3. The Sharpener

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” – King Solomon

A while back, I had every intention of going for a swim workout at the gym. I had planned for it all week. I was looking forward to it.

But when the time came for me to go, my bed wanted to hold me hostage. It felt too good! I started to make excuses for why it was ok if I skipped my workout that day. Then I got a text from my sister.

“Are we going to the gym?”

Busted. I couldn’t not go now. Sigh. So I sent a text back telling her I’d meet her there. A short while later, my swim workout was complete, and I was feeling good.

Your peers hold you accountable.

They won’t let you slack off or make excuses. They push you. They fuel you.

When you are weak, the right peers will help make you strong.

How to get razor sharp

Go on a similar journey

Your peers need to have similar goals as you. They don’t have to be exactly the same, but definitely in the same ballpark.

That way, you can have discussions about your challenges, and successes as you go about building your business. And you can do it without having to explain all the details about why what you’re experiencing is important or significant.

Your peers get what you’re going through, ‘cause it’s their world too.

And if for some reason you fall behind, or get tripped up, they’ll know enough about the path to help say or do the right things to get you back on track.

Play different instruments

You don’t need a crew of people who are all like you. The people in your circle should have varying styles, talents and gifts, so you all can help each other.

When one person is strong, he can give suggestions to others in the group who need to improve.

Make sure you’re surrounding yourself with people you can learn from. That’s the best way to ensure everyone in the group is getting the most value out of being together.

Check in regularly

You’ll get the best results from your peers when you talk consistently. Then you can assess each other’s progress, hold each other accountable, and provide the needed support to keep you going.

If too much time passes between when you get together, you’ll have to spend a lot of up front time catching everyone up on what’s been going on.

There’s no set rule on how often this needs to be. But find a rhythm and format that works well for the group. You’ll get better results when you have a preset framework and time to meet.

4. The Cheerleader

Back when famed writer Stephen King was writing Carrie, his first published novel, he got so frustrated with it, he threw it in the trash. He describes the way things went down this way:

“I couldn’t see wasting two weeks, maybe even a month, creating a novella I didn’t like and wouldn’t be able to sell. So I threw it away.

The next night, when I came home from school, Tabby had the pages. She’d spied them while emptying my wastebasket, had shaken the cigarette ashes off the crumpled balls of paper, smoothed them out, and sat down to read them. She wanted me to go on with it, she said. She wanted to know the rest of the story. I told her I didn’t know jack-sh*t about high school girls. She said she’d help me with that part. She had her chin tilted down and was smiling in that severely cute way of hers. ‘You’ve got something here,’ she said. ‘I really think you do.’”

You need at least one person in your life who won’t let you quit. Someone who believes in you, and your vision, even when you don’t.

So whether it’s a high five, a listening ear, or even just a knowing hug, your cheerleader has many techniques.

Your cheerleader, will be the one to give you the support you need to cross the finish line.

How to ensure your cheerleaders bring it

Weed out the bandwagoners

Who do you have in your world that loves you unconditionally, whether or not you’re blazing trails? Who loves you simply because you make their life better? Who do you know, that genuinely, just wants to see you to be your best?

That’s the cheerleader you want on your team.

That’s the person who will be able to withstand your rants, and tantrums, and other irrational moments.

It’s easy to have people cheer for you when you’re doing well.

But your most effective cheerleader will be someone who can breathe life back into you, when your dream feels like its at death’s door.

Let your cheerleader on the team bus

As you work to make your dream your reality, include your best supporter on your journey.

Share your vision. Tell her about your successes, frustrations, and progress. The more she gets invested in your success, the easier it will be for her to push you forward. Even when you don’t feel like moving.

Get on the same wavelength

Your cheerleader should be someone who knows you well. Well enough that they always show up exactly when you need them.

Whether it’s through an encouraging text message, or an inappropriate joke to make you not take yourself too seriously, your cheerleader always knows what to do.

You need to make sure you’ve got a cheerleader who is on the job both when you call, and when you don’t.

It’s time to build your dream team

Close your eyes. You just got an award as the result of making life better for those you serve.

You’re in your fancy clothes. You just stepped to the podium. And all eyes are on you.

Can you see it?

Alright, who are you going to thank? When it comes time for you to talk about how you achieved your goal, who are the people you will shout out for helping you get there. Who are the people you will recognize as being essential to your success?

Because when you activate your magic wand by assembling a rock-star team, success in your business will come.

As John Donne said, “No man is an island.”

Surround yourself with people who make you better.

Your dream business is too important for you to go it alone.